I sometimes get asked the question,
“What were some of the bad moments of your past/childhood?”
and I always answer the same way,
“I don’t know”.
Most times they think I’m avoiding the question, maybe because of some deep pain I’m trying to keep concealed, but honestly, most times…I just really don’t know. Well to be accurate, I do know but I don’t care. I know that makes me sound like an insensitive prick, but just hear me out. Like many people, I have experienced bad times, I have shed tears, I have lost someone dear to my heart, and I have felt true heartbreak and I have made mistakes; have you ever heard the saying
“Time is a great healer”,
(or something like that). It isn’t just as saying. As I grew older the pain I felt at those horrible moments faded away, and so did the memories associated with them, sometimes I don’t know if this is some sort of blessing from God or just a mental defect? But I cannot remember bad times, well most times. Even if I do, I don’t remember the pain I felt at that time it occurred. I also live by a personal philosophy, that
“whatever is in the past is there for a reason, it has made me who I am today, but I look ahead with the experiences gained.”
However, I am by no means saying that everyone should be like me and forget about their past, because forgetting the past can have horrible effects on the present but in the same respect holding on too much to the past can prevent you from moving forward. Pain is inevitable, it’s a part of the human experience, it’s through pain that we get stronger, not just physically but emotionally too. We learn from pain, it allows us to grow and if dealt with correctly, we can pass through the fires forged into a new person. I one of my last entries I posted an analogy comparing life to a river, that it flows in one direction continuously, however I’d like to add that
sometimes during this journey down the river after going around all the twists and turns and even the rapids, you may get stuck between some rocks or even branches, it’ll take a lot of work to get unstuck but if you don’t try you’ll never be able to continue down that ever-flowing stream of life.
I don’t think I must explain to you what that means. So, in short,
welcome pain, embrace it,
…LET IT GO.