You Are Not Special. (From My Imaginarium #16)

“The older I get the more I accept my insignificance”,

now that may be a hard pill for most of you to swallow, after all, you were raised to believe you were special, that you were somehow more important than the average person and you were destined for great things. Well if you grew up in the 90’s like I did, then by now you’ve probably accomplished some pretty great things and are on the path to accomplishing even more great things, if you are then this entry isn’t for you, sorry to disappoint.

This is for you guys out there who still haven’t figured out your life yet, those of you who don’t even know what you’re going to have for dinner and those of you who’re stuck in an unfulfilling job trying to make ends meet so you can finally do what you always dreamed of, but the more you work the further your dream gets away from you and you’re slowly losing hope, yup this is for you.

Most of you know by now of my religious background, about how going to church was almost as important as going to school, not only did church put a dampener in my pursuit of “secular” knowledge it also did a wonderful job of brainwashing me for quite a number of years, well you’re probably reading this and thinking “in what way did they brainwash me?” because they pretty much hit every facet of your life in church, but for this entry we’re talking specifically about

the illusion of self-importance.

If you’ve grown up in church or still go from time to time then you know exactly what I’m talking about. Christianity teaches all its followers that they’re all important and special. Many of you Christians reading this are probably thinking “But we all are special…” are you though? Think about that statement; if we all are special, then paradoxically none of us are. For a long time, I grew up with the illusion that I was Important, my parents would always tell me I’d be someone mighty; (for the Lord of course) and that’s how I lived my entire life, inside this bubble caught up in my own ego. I don’t exactly blame my parents for anything, they were only doing what they thought was the right thing to do, without realising how it could affect me in my later years.

But whether it’s the cause of Religion, Parents, Friends or this messed up age of social media; we have in This generation, now more than ever, an army of self-entitled, narcissistic assholes who confuse their imagined self-worth with happiness, and feel threatened every time someone says something negative about them, constantly complaining about having “Haters” when they can’t handle having their illusion of self-grandeur tainted with the “stains” of reality. Then you wonder why we have so many depressed individuals and people killing themselves in society these days.

“There are over seven billion people on the planet and some of us have the audacity to think we matter, we know it’s a lie but some of us prefer it to the alternative” and that is, fundamentally, we’re just like everyone else.

Yes, I know some of you may come from wealthy families, you have cool jobs, and growing up you may have been among the few privileged individuals, which would explain why you would feel that you’re special. However, for those of you who aren’t as privileged, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t aim for the stars and become “Great” but what you need to remember is becoming great in your own right does not make you better than anyone else.

Accepting your insignificance doesn’t mean that you accept your fate as being equivalent to a speck of dust compared to the vastness of the cosmos, it means that you accept who you are and what you can do, it means that you’re not trying to compare yourself to anyone and are just doing what you want for YOUR life, without letting anyone else tell you what you should do.

And of course, it means being humble throughout your existence.

When you do that, when you accept who you are and you’re not anxious about the future and just doing all you can for the moment; you’ll be so much happier…and then you’ll realise, it’s the little things that make life worth living.

 

-NORMAN ALEXANDER

 

Photo: “The Crowd” – Huffington Post

 

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